Silver adult dating
So I humbled myself and took my grandmother out for dinner to hear why she thought courtship was a bad idea all those years ago.
I talked with homeschool parents, students and alumni all over the country and started to see some challenges with making courtship work.
When my grandmother dated in middle school (yes, middle school) her parents had one primary rule for her.
The Primary Dating Rule: Don’t go out with the same guy twice in a row. She explained that the lack of exclusivity helped them guard their hearts and kept things from getting too serious too quickly. The lack of exclusivity helped the girls guard their hearts and kept the boys from feeling entitled to the girl.
So if she went out for soda with Bob on Tuesday, she had to go to a movie with Bill on Thursday before she could go to the school dance with Bob on Saturday. The lack of exclusivity kept the interactions fun and casual. How could a boy have a claim to her time, heart or body if she was going out with someone else later that week?
She went on to explain that by the time she graduated from high school, she had gone out on dates with over 20 different guys.
I grew up as a member of the homeschool community back when we were hiding from the cops and getting our textbooks from public school dumpsters.